Simple math, yes or no?
Maybe simple, but not necessarily easy. Some qualifiers for this algorithm below:
AWARENESS
“Know thyself,” the old adage goes.
Being aware of our underlying needs, wants, triggers, dreams, fears, and patterns takes a great deal of practice. It takes getting quiet and still, and listening.
It also takes getting out there on the court and watching the effects of our actions.
There are a couple different styles of awareness. One is as an observer. Where you can zoom out and look at yourself as you might another person, with greater objectivity. Where you can also zoom way in and feel into the tiny recesses of your body, and notice each sensation with curiosity and awe. Where you recognize that none of this is yours or you, per se. That you are, at your very core, Loving Awareness.
Another style is through a filter of fear and resistance, where you might label experiences as bad or wrong, and you push them away. A form of self-rejection, in essence. Where your view is temporarily small and rigid and narrow. This is not so much an act of awareness as it is a survival mechanism. An act of control and vigilance to protect you from perceived threat.
The beautiful part, to me, is that you can step into the first form of awareness and view these survival reactions from a place of compassion. Noticing them. Thanking them for protecting you. You can come right back to loving awareness within a single breath.
ALIGNED ACTION
Awareness all on its own is a powerful place to stand.
However, when you infuse your thoughts and behaviors with the truths you learn by knowing yourself, THAT’S where the magic happens! That’s where you take your unique fingerprint – the DNA of your own truth, never before seen/never to be seen again – and you alchemize and transform the world around you.
We are more powerful than we could ever comprehend. And our actions are consistently informed by some motivation, conscious or otherwise.
The two fundamental motivations, from my perspective, are love and fear. When you act from fear, this is just the soft animal in you trying to survive. This can look like habit loops, addiction, and an overall feeling of being stuck in a rut or out of control. At the effect of life.
When we tune into our own loving awareness, this creates the bedrock for authentic self-expression. For interacting with ourselves and the world in a way that feels truer to our core essence. A sense of life working for you. That you are one with life.
This is something you can’t fake. You can’t bypass the survival mechanism of fear bubbling up in your gut to emulate “good vibes only.” What you resist persists, and your actions won’t resonate with the truth of your experience. When you honor all of our truths, even when you see them as “bad,” “ugly,” or “wrong,” it gives permission for everyone around you to do the same. And, miraculously, it transforms the fear to love. It brings light to the darkness.
SELF-WORTH
Let me start with this: You are INHERENTLY worthy.
Worthiness is not “earned” as many religious ideologies, school systems, industrialistic society, and many of your parents might program you to believe.
No matter what you’ve done/didn’t do. No matter what raunch floats through your mind. No matter if you’re a millionaire or if you’re living with your parents in your 40s. No matter if you’re single or married. No matter if you’re a criminal or a saint. You are as worthy of spinning around on this rock in the sky as everyone else. You are a fucking MIRACLE.
Now let me be clear: This doesn’t mean your BEHAVIOR isn’t immune to consequences or to judgment. Cause and effect is part of our reality. But you, your character, your being, who you are at your divine human core, are WORTHY, my friend. Of forgiveness. Of happiness. Of abundance. Of the freedom to be exactly who you are. Of playing your part… full out… in this miracle called Life!
What I’m speaking to in this little equation here, is your own sense of self-worth. Your relationship to worthiness at any given moment. The extent to which you can tap into this inherent badassery that I describe above.
This sense of worthiness built.
And one way I’d posit we build it is by knowing ourselves and by applying that awareness to our actions. Creating space to see and acknowledge ourselves, listen to our truths with compassion, and apply that awareness to our actions with the utmost integrity.
And strangely enough, your behavior tends to fall in line with this sense of self-worth. What you’re aware of confirms it. The equation feeds back into itself.
And it is all a cycle of learning, and love, and transformation.
Thank you, family. I love you and I hope this is of service to you.
